Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Grateful

I am so extremely grateful that one of my readers commented and let me know that she too has been going through some of the same issues with her daughter being bullied. It makes me feel like I am not alone in this and I am validated in my feelings. It is so hard to pin point female bullying. It's not like little boys where they hit and push. It's more of an emotional battle field. And they start sooooo early. That has been the most shocking to me. Maybe I had my head buried in the sand believing I wouldn't have to worry about this until middle school, but I really thought I had a while. The manipulation, the lies, the exclusion. It is exhausting and heartbreaking and when talking to other parents it is so hard to describe. I have read several articles about female bullying and every single one of them describes what this child has done to mine. What makes it worse, the bully's mother is a teacher at the middle school Lovebug will go to one day. And she is one of those mothers that full heartily believes her little girl would never be mean to another. And it makes me want to scream....especially since I have witnessed the behavior with my own two eyes! Now, do I think Lovebug could have done some things differently in the past. Abso-freakin-lutely. And I have gone over what she did wrong and how I thought she could have better handled it. I have shut out so many of my neighbors because of this because I refuse to be near this family and the drama that somehow unfolds around it. And to be honest, I feel myself being a little bitter towards my neighbors that they either don't see what has happened or they are turning a blind eye. What to do, what to do?

1 comment:

Just Ask Beth said...

there is a book called 'The Queen Bee and want to bee's" I have lent it out and I am preety sure this is the Title, might be wanna Bee's, anyway it addresses female ADOLESCENT bullying, it is chronic!! To top "our" situation off, the little 4 year old brother is a hitter and a Puncher, but we were told SHE better NOT hit back because he is younger than her.. Well, guess what, he doesn't hit like he is younger. He once got a 2x4 piece of wood and hit my little girl in the back!! I nearly went off!